Respond to self-criticism
You can explore the expectations you place on yourself and the way you respond to setbacks. Sessions may help you consider a more balanced view of your strengths and difficulties.
Online therapy for self-esteem & confidence
If you often feel you are falling short, even when others see your strengths, it can be exhausting. Therapy offers space to explore how you see yourself and what you would like to change.
You may want to understand your inner critic, speak up more easily or feel less dependent on other people’s approval. Explore the practitioners below, or ask our team to help you choose.
Online support across the UK · from £24 · Confirm suitability and availability before booking.
What would you like to feel more able to do?
Express needs and boundaries
If keeping other people happy often comes before your own needs, you can discuss what makes speaking up difficult. Work may include considering boundaries and practising how to express them.
Take manageable steps
You may want more confidence at work, in relationships or when trying something new. You and your practitioner can discuss goals that matter to you and steps that feel realistic.
How therapy can help
Counselling can give you time to explore feelings, relationships and experiences connected with how you see yourself. CBT-based work may include looking at unhelpful beliefs and trying different ways of responding to situations.
Each practitioner has their own approach. Ask about their training, how they work with self-esteem and whether the work is mainly reflective, practical or a combination.
Confidence on your terms
You can define what greater confidence would mean in your life: making a decision, accepting a compliment, sharing an opinion or feeling less pressure to be perfect.
You do not need a diagnosis to enquire. If anxiety or low mood is also affecting you, mention this when discussing suitable support. Your GP can help if you are concerned about your mental health.
Find a practitioner for self-esteem & confidence
Explore relevant experience, approaches and current fees. Check the ages each practitioner works with, their session options and whether their support suits your needs.
9 therapists listed. Confirm suitability, session length and availability with your chosen provider.
Philip Edwards
Founder & Therapist
Support with anxiety, low mood, stress and the experiences behind difficult feelings.
From £55
individual session
Andrew Gonsalves
Person-Centred Counsellor
Explore difficult feelings and everyday pressures at a pace that suits you.
From £40
individual session
Sarah Jane de Neumann
CBT-Informed Life Coach
Coaching support for emotional wellbeing, confidence and practical next steps.
From £40
individual session
John Davis
Counsellor
Counselling for anxiety, low mood and challenges affecting daily life.
From £24
30-minute session (£40 for one hour)
Jess Goodman
Counsellor
A supportive space for worry, low mood, stress and emotional overwhelm.
From £24
30-minute session (£40 for one hour)
Kathryn Fines
Humanistic, Trauma & EMDR Therapist
Space to explore anxiety, low mood and difficult experiences with support.
From £40
individual session
Hannah French
Psychotherapist & Hypnotherapist
An individual approach to exploring anxiety, low mood and emotional wellbeing.
From £48
individual session
Caroline Sanders
Person-Centred Counsellor
Warm, non-judgemental person-centred counselling to explore your thoughts and feelings and understand yourself better. Caroline welcomes people from all backgrounds, with understanding informed by her lived experience as a queer woman with ADHD.
From £40
individual session
Eleanor Knowles-Wade
Counsellor & Psychotherapist
Person-centred support for anxiety, depression, confidence and life changes.
From £40
individual session
A simple way to get started
- Explore a profile. Read about the practitioner’s approach, experience, fees and session options.
- Ask questions. Contact us if you would like help choosing. A free consultation is with an advisor who can discuss suitable therapists; it does not commit you to paid sessions.
- Agree your next step. Confirm suitability, session arrangements and applicable terms with your chosen provider before booking.
Questions about self-esteem and confidence therapy
What is the difference between self-esteem and confidence?
Self-esteem describes how you view and value yourself. Confidence often relates to how capable you feel in a particular situation. You might feel confident at work while still being very critical of yourself elsewhere.
Can I enquire if things look fine from the outside?
Yes. You can ask for support with your experience even if other people see you as confident or successful. You do not have to wait until things become unmanageable.
Do all practitioners offer CBT?
No. Approaches and qualifications vary. Read the individual profile and ask whether the practitioner provides CBT therapy, CBT-informed tools or another approach.
Will I have to talk about my past?
You can discuss what you are comfortable sharing and what feels relevant. Some approaches explore earlier experiences; others focus more on present situations. Ask the practitioner how they work before deciding.
How much does therapy cost?
Currently listed individual fees are £24–£55. Session lengths and fees vary by practitioner. Confirm the details before booking; making an enquiry is free.
How long does it take to build confidence?
There is no single timetable. You and your practitioner can agree goals and review how the work is going. A particular outcome or number of sessions cannot be guaranteed.
Related support
Further information
Read the NHS guidance on raising low self-esteem and how counselling works.
These resources offer general information. You can discuss what is appropriate for your circumstances with your chosen practitioner.
This enquiry form is not an urgent support service. If you need urgent mental health help, please use the NHS guidance on getting urgent help.
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Therapists’ services and qualifications vary. Check the individual profile before booking. This directory does not provide emergency support.